Ugly Love by Colleen Hoover

— feeling misdoubt
Ugly Love - Colleen Hoover

Seriously? You made me read someone's internal monologue on being a fuck buddy? Because by the looks of it to me, here's what happened:


Oh my God. He has eyes like the Caribbean sea and the V. (Don't forget the V)

I'm so lucky he wants to have sex me.

Oh no, I'm falling for him.

Wait, he wants sex. Let's put HIM first.

I deserve more.

He wants sex again.

He'll come around.

Sex sex sex

I just know he loves me

He said his ex's name during sex with me - oof!

This is enough.. but I'll still pine for him

Hey, he finally admits that he loves me! Yay!


Good God. Girl just doesn't know when to draw the line. I mean, really, this goes on for 80% of the book. They have sex, she's having second thoughts on this arrangement, then she forgets all about it once they have sex again. Again and again. AND. AGAIN. 


Here's a tip: when they want you just for sex, they want just you for sex. If you're positive that you have serious feelings for this guy, you do not agree to a sex-only arrangement. Don't go around feeling hopeful and trying to fix his issues so that he will be able to return your feelings.


Then, there's Miles' chapter to justify his crappy treatment of Tate. I don't really believe that Tate could Miles' love for him. For one, twice or thrice during sex Miles hurts Tate by being too forceful into her.


He thrusts himself inside me so unexpectedly hard and fast I practically scream into his mouth. He doesn’t stop to ask me if it hurts. He doesn’t slow down. He pushes harder and deeper until there isn’t any way we could possibly get any closer.


She practically screams in pain. Does Miles ask her if she's okay? Of course not! Emotionally wounded guys like me have no time for that. We are busy in our own pain.


Also, we are under the impression that Tate is a strong, independent woman. Ending her previous relationship because she chose her career and embracing her sexuality by being able to agree to a booty call and she knows what she deserves. She checks all the boxes and then we get this


I absolutely don’t like either of those rules. They both make me want to change my mind about this arrangement and turn and run away, but instead, I’m nodding. I’m nodding because I’ll take what I can get. I’m not Tate when I’m near Miles. I’m liquid, and liquid doesn’t know how to be firm or stand up for itself. Liquid flows. That’s all I want to do with Miles.


He leads. I let him. Because he’s a solid and I’m a liquid, and right now, I’m just his wake.



What's frustrating is she knows that everything is wrong with the arrangement and that she couldn't handle it but she still agrees. Given the fact that she has feelings for the guy, but she still presses on! She gets hurt when he fails her. It's the classic martyr of a woman, always putting the guy first. She never realizes that her feelings are valid and that her needs are important. Only his pain and suffering is what matters.


Miles' reason is also held from us until almost the end because if it were revealed in the beginning I would've been even more frustrated since the solution was very obvious! 

Hint: Guys, if you really, really like a girl, you would do everything to be with her. You do not make these lame excuses just so you can have sex with her and send her mixed signals while you're at it. A sob story is never an excuse to be a jerk.


Teenage me would have lapped this all up. I would have taken this for genuine romance (ugh) and for a long time, this would have been my standard for a romantic relationship. All the drama and the issues and the passions. I am afraid of what teens of today would take away from this, with the abundance of this type of stories. I hope that they will know better and we need to show them that they are worth it.